The reality .. 22q11 is a hard thing to live with.. the truth its a battle.. the facts its not easy living with the pieces that are known to hold you together. My biggest battle is depression, mood swings, and anxiety. the biggest and worst thing I have ever had to endure is knowing that one day I will have to explain this to my daughter.
Yes I battle depression, being fine one minute and extremely upset the next, wanting a divorce from my husband and wanting nothing to do with my family. Anxiety,, Part of 22q11. I hate it oh yea, I hate it, The headaches the feeling you get that is just sometimes unbearable to cope with. Mood swings.. one of the WORST things to ever battle. the ones you do not understand why you are upset , ok one minute and the world is just awesome the next minute.
The hardest part of all this.. being a mom and having to see your child at such a young age sit and watch her mom experiance a million emmotions at once.
Thank goodness for my family who tries to understand, who tries to be a support system, and who tries to encourage me and keep me going.
What keeps me going.. my daughter. I push through the anger and frustration that I have to live with 22q11 and she doesnt. I am quickly reminded she could have easily faced the challanges that i have to deal with and thank god daily for a healthy thriving little girl that is full of love and joy and such a blessing to have.
My issues for me did not start until later in life. I can hit rock bottom one day and then turn around a few hours later and be fine. I did not want to accept I had a lot of the mental aspects of 22q11 and have been able to live such a normal life until my issues hit around the time i turned 26/28. In fact if truth be told i did not want to accept I had 22q11 at all.
What changed my acceptance? knowing there are others out there that have it like me.. what frustrates me the most.. having to search high and low for treatment for adults with 22q11 and some that are brave enough to tackle a heart patient with depression axiety etc.
I am beyond thankful for my family. They have stood by me through my darkest days when I have before becoing a mom stayed locked in my room and not wanting to come out. My husband has stood by me on those dark days also. I still have my dark days but my little ray of sunshine keeps me going. My life is not easy. 22q11 is not easy to understand. do I regret writting any of this no, . Living with the issues i have and continuing on with life is robably one of the geatest pleasures i have with this syndrome.
I have hit rock bottom while derek my husband was deployed and toughed it out. when I married that is when I finally decided i needed help. that is probably one of the hardest things I have ever had to admit to myself., Getting help was probaby one of the best things I could have ever done. I have even reached the dark days of suicide thoughts. thanks to the love again from family they bailed me out and gave me a dose of reality.
I write this tonight with a heavy heart and the fact that a lot of us out there deal with these same issues. life is tough with this syndrome. we have to eventually attempt life and try to succeed . I am now on medication for depression mood swings and anxiety. I am picking up and continuing on with life again.
being a mom is not an easy task while having 22q, but i get through it. life is tough, but having 22q11 is tougher.. people aways say what doesnt kill you only makes you stronger. I have lived I have achieved and i will survive life with this syndrome. I will go on and raise my little girl and I will go on and enjoy life. Life ws never meant to be easy.. sometiems the good lord above gives those of us an extra challange in life to p rove that we can succeed . Thank you for taking the time to read about my struggle with 22q11 deletion. "Never let it stop you and never let this syndrome bring you down"
Thursday, August 13, 2015
Saturday, February 7, 2015
a new mom , a new valve and new challenges.
A lot have been asking about my biggest challenges being a mom with 22q and CHD to a healthy non cud and 22q baby. I had to take a lot of time and think about my challenges and obstacles I faced now that my daughter is 11 months old.
My biggest challenges with my 22q issues are only just mood swings and anxiety . I have been successfully able to stay off of medication for a year now. I do best in calm and collected environments and have found recently that a lot of what I eat can also effect my moods. I have tried to eat more healthier and stay away from fast foods and seem to be in better moods.
With that being said: My biggest challenges have been staying focused on what I need to do from day to day being that Myranda is completely healthy. It seems with a lot of 22qers we have troubles trying focused.
My other challenges have been accepting the fact that my daughter does not have 22q or TOF like I do since I was told for years that I could not have kids and would pass down everthing I have and they have a higher chance than most with having the deletion and TOF.
My husband is now out of the navy and working as a civilian. My biggest struggles have been to re adapt to the civilian life. I basically do not have to worry about anymore deployments , i do however miss the military life , but hopefully he is going to be able to re enlist in the airforce soon to finish out the 6 years he had left in the navy.
I also recently on november 20th had to get a new Pulmonary valve put in . That on its own was a challenge for me with being a mom also. I was up in Missouri at the time (that is where my husband is from ) My valve I currently had due to being pregnant played out which is rare for a bovine. I only had my bovine for 4 years. I went a head and got the melody valve put in via cath. It seems to be doing well now and I am able to keep up with Myranda a little bit better.
One thing about being a CHD mom that will always be in the back of my mind is that I am slower . I worry about being able to keep up with Myranda as she gets older. I am waiting on the day to come when Myranda asks me about my heart and I plan on telling her the entire story and how she is a miracle to both her dad and I .
It was hard having my valve replaced and being down for a few days. I could only imagine having to go through a complete open heart surgery and being a mom . It killed me not being able to pick up Myranda for a week.
I am looking forward to this next year and what life has in store for my husband and I. My life has always been an interesting journey for some and a lot of hope for others. With the love of my family I have made it this far in life. Being 35 just means beating the odds of very little hope my mom and dad were given. Being a mom with 22q and CHD just means I accomplished something people told me I never would do.
Life is an open door for accomplishments I have learned in the past few years . I never thought someone like my husband would come along and accept me beyond my flaws. I never thought at 34 years old I would be hearing its a girl and at 35 be hearing her say mama. CHD and 22q does not have to mean there isn't life and you have to live in a bubble. I have done so much that many said I couldn't and am all the time proving people wrong. I may not have been able to hold down a job , but i can at least say I have the most important job of all being the best mom I can be with a broken heart and a few missing pieces to the most b beautiful little angel that we were blessed to raise. I do not regret anything in life I have done.
Life is not always beautiful, sometimes its just plain hard. it may not always be beautiful but it can be one of the most beautiful rides you will ever take. Don't ever hold back our hide in a bubble. A bubble can only go so far without popping. Get out experience life enjoy it grab it by the horns and keep riding.
Myranda has taught me one of the most beautiful things in life are answered prayers and god will pay attn to those that deserve it. CHD and 22q doesn't stop me from being a mom . I can only hope and pray that valve procedures get a lot more easier.
My biggest challenges with my 22q issues are only just mood swings and anxiety . I have been successfully able to stay off of medication for a year now. I do best in calm and collected environments and have found recently that a lot of what I eat can also effect my moods. I have tried to eat more healthier and stay away from fast foods and seem to be in better moods.
With that being said: My biggest challenges have been staying focused on what I need to do from day to day being that Myranda is completely healthy. It seems with a lot of 22qers we have troubles trying focused.
My other challenges have been accepting the fact that my daughter does not have 22q or TOF like I do since I was told for years that I could not have kids and would pass down everthing I have and they have a higher chance than most with having the deletion and TOF.
My husband is now out of the navy and working as a civilian. My biggest struggles have been to re adapt to the civilian life. I basically do not have to worry about anymore deployments , i do however miss the military life , but hopefully he is going to be able to re enlist in the airforce soon to finish out the 6 years he had left in the navy.
I also recently on november 20th had to get a new Pulmonary valve put in . That on its own was a challenge for me with being a mom also. I was up in Missouri at the time (that is where my husband is from ) My valve I currently had due to being pregnant played out which is rare for a bovine. I only had my bovine for 4 years. I went a head and got the melody valve put in via cath. It seems to be doing well now and I am able to keep up with Myranda a little bit better.
One thing about being a CHD mom that will always be in the back of my mind is that I am slower . I worry about being able to keep up with Myranda as she gets older. I am waiting on the day to come when Myranda asks me about my heart and I plan on telling her the entire story and how she is a miracle to both her dad and I .
It was hard having my valve replaced and being down for a few days. I could only imagine having to go through a complete open heart surgery and being a mom . It killed me not being able to pick up Myranda for a week.
I am looking forward to this next year and what life has in store for my husband and I. My life has always been an interesting journey for some and a lot of hope for others. With the love of my family I have made it this far in life. Being 35 just means beating the odds of very little hope my mom and dad were given. Being a mom with 22q and CHD just means I accomplished something people told me I never would do.
Life is an open door for accomplishments I have learned in the past few years . I never thought someone like my husband would come along and accept me beyond my flaws. I never thought at 34 years old I would be hearing its a girl and at 35 be hearing her say mama. CHD and 22q does not have to mean there isn't life and you have to live in a bubble. I have done so much that many said I couldn't and am all the time proving people wrong. I may not have been able to hold down a job , but i can at least say I have the most important job of all being the best mom I can be with a broken heart and a few missing pieces to the most b beautiful little angel that we were blessed to raise. I do not regret anything in life I have done.
Life is not always beautiful, sometimes its just plain hard. it may not always be beautiful but it can be one of the most beautiful rides you will ever take. Don't ever hold back our hide in a bubble. A bubble can only go so far without popping. Get out experience life enjoy it grab it by the horns and keep riding.
Myranda has taught me one of the most beautiful things in life are answered prayers and god will pay attn to those that deserve it. CHD and 22q doesn't stop me from being a mom . I can only hope and pray that valve procedures get a lot more easier.
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